Children following the SCARF programme will already have a good understanding of their bodies, and how and why they change as they go through puberty.
For this age group it's is often about building on that information and developing further knowledge about the emotional changes that take place. This should take place alongside learning in more detail the reasons for the changes: to be able to reproduce, if they want to, when they’re older.
Parents are recognised as the primary educators of children of Relationships and Sex Education (RSE). Yet many feel unprepared. Often this is because they had poor RSE themselves - from home,school, or both.
The following is designed to support you as you help your child navigate the emotional and physical changes that take place during puberty, as well as learning about sex in the context of safe, loving relationships.
Questions Children Ask and How to Answer Them by Dr M Stoppard
Speakeasy: Talking with your Children about Growing Up by fpa (Family Planning Association)
Amaze.org- Puberty section (Age 9+)
BBC Teach –The Big Talk (age 9-12)
Draw around bodies and label parts, using correct words (and family names) and their purpose
Put together your own ‘puberty bag’ from household items. Discuss each one and why it’s used, e.g. deodorant, razors, tampons/pads, shower gel, washing powder, tissues, hair gel.
Same as above for contents of handbag; items support discussions about growing up
Have an old shoe box, or similar, where children could post questions that they might not be able to ask you verbally.
Praise and thank them for their questions. Try to answer them using the webpages above to help provide age-appropriate, fact-based answers.